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Re: [RC] [RC] buddy problem(long) - DeAnn Schnepple

I'll second that one.  There are some people out there that are just users!!
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Sunday, July 27, 2003 11:14 AM
Subject: Re: [RC] [RC] buddy problem(long)

Get a good book on Co-Dependency.
Learn to say "not today"
You will survie and be happier if you learn to let go of your need to please
her .
You don't  need her approval.
You can agree to disagree.
Whose life is it anyway?
   Laurie /Rascal/Honey?Scout (now if I can just learn those lessons myself)
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>From: RENESPONY@xxxxxx
>To: ridecamp@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
>Subject: [RC]   buddy problem(long)
>Date: Sat, 26 Jul 2003 23:05:34 EDT
>
>i know some of you would give your right arm for a riding buddy but i got a
>problem.
>my ridding buddy is a pain in the butt. we simply do not get along.
>however i feel like the ungrateful witch for saying anything.
>heres the story.she has the truck, i have the trailer and all the camping
>equipment,and extra horse stuff.and good thing i do cause she is totally
>unprepared for everything.
>  we board at the same place and both work there part time.
>she probably wouldn't go to rides if she couldn't get someone to go with
>her,
>and it would be silly to take two rigs from the same barn to go to the same
>ride, cant we just get along????
>i have been with horses for over 20 years and she has been doing it for 2,
>so
>i guess you could call her a newbie. both our experiences are LD.
>she's got a 6 yro NSH i got a  8 yro qtr/arab.
>unfortunately she wont listen to anyone including the trainers and the vet.
>she goes crazy with the conditioning, tries to always ride 5-6 times a
>week,
>wants to go with me all the time when i ride, wants to ride all day and go
>fast.
>she will say "lets go out and do an easy hour ride" we get home 3 1/2 hours
>later after i chase her over hill and dale.now her boy can cover ground,
>has a
>huge stride and i cant keep up on the little Arab cross. so i either try to
>keep up or leave her in the woods.her favorite thing is the 10 minute trot,
>and
>she loves the gravel roads cause she has to walk in those darn woods!
>she will constantly bust my chops to catch up and push him harder.she says
>we
>are trotting then her horse will break into a canter and she will take off
>because she enjoys going fast. she hates to walk because its boring, and
>will
>walk till i come trotting up then take off again.she does the same thing at
>rides and i have pulled back and sent her on ahead much to her dismay. she
>wants
>someone to talk to and that's the big thing about why she wants me right
>beside
>her the whole day.
>
>I've tried reasoning with her, faining a pain in my side to get her to slow
>down,etc.
>her poor horse is only 6 and the vet is telling her he is getting worn in
>the
>stifles already. the horse is frequently stiff the next day and is now
>blowing abcesses in his feet.
>you think my horse would come into great shape from chasing our "rabbit"
>but
>the pace is blowing his mind, and he gets uncontrollable at strange places
>(like rides!)
>we are fine alone, and fine if in a familiar place. hey, i love to go fast
>too, but this is too much.
>i have copied articles off the Internet to inform her, lent her books, but
>it
>seems to fuel the fire to "do better" at every ride. a little bit of
>knowledge is dangerous.
>i am looking to part company with her, so i can enjoy myself and ride my
>own
>pace.
>her darn horse always scores better than mine even though i top 10 every
>ride.
>the horse could be a star, he's a dream to watch, covering ground,
>drinking,
>eating gets great scores (98 +99's) if she don't run him into the ground.
>two different people with two different horses.
>So now am I an ungrateful witch?
>She can be so nice, and we use her truck for everything, which should be
>cool.
>A person who wants to go everywhere and do everything! Wouldn't that be a
>dream?
>
>now i see in her tack room 6 tubs of supplements and vitamins, which she is
>giving him twice a day, and she is telling me she doubles the dose on hard
>days
>of work.
>aaaargh!! and the funny thing is she will sit and lecture you on all the
>fine
>things she learned in her books, and what the vet told her to do.
>i really, really hold my tongue and try not to argue with her as she tells
>me
>how its gonna be and why am i doing this and that?
>no matter how nice i put it, she will be upset if i tell her I'm doing my
>own
>thing and don't want to do things with her any more.
>but I've had enough and am not enjoying myself any more. what am i to do?
>
>Rene
>
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