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Right on, Beverly.  And people who post the most here have  
proportionately more chances to attract the off-hand response, or that  
un-nuanced by facial expression-seemingly contrary-or-insulting one.

You said it so nicely.  "It’s all in y/our own sense of self-esteem  
and ego fortitude."  In my rushed, ex-military vernacular I would have  
just said it's time to "grow a set".

It's just amazing to me sometimes--there will be this knock-down, drag  
out battle where it's not just passion for the issue but has turned  
personal--and I know the participants FACE to FACE well enough to  
realize if this was over a campfire they'd be the best of friends.

I always pause before hitting the send button, and think about whether  
I want the thousands of ridecamp subscribers to see my message, and  
not just the few participating in that particular topic.  I absolutely  
DO limit my written participation here, though I read all the  
responses, skimming and deleting.  So very many times I've hit the  
"save as draft" button because of feeling so strongly about what I'm  
replying to--and go back to it later, just deleting it because either  
it wasn't necessary or someone else made my points and usually in a  
much more graceful manner.

Lynne

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On Jul 21, 2008, at 8:27 AM, Beverley H. Kane, MD wrote:

> “On the Internet, no one knows you’re a dog.”
>
> While the pot shots, self-righteousness, and emotional UNtelligence  
> in online chats is unfortunate, that’s life on the Internet.  
> Internet dialog is a semi-anonymous, asynchronous medium that lends  
> itself to rude and cowardly communication styles that one would  
> never dare to express in a face-to-face encounter. It’s like a drug  
> or like breaking cups against the wall for people with grudges,  
> chips on their shoulders, insecurities, and deficient social skills.
>
> But really, people who refrain from posting their questions and  
> wisdom due to e-mail taunts strike me as comparably thin of skin as  
> those who feel like second class citizens at LDs. It’s all in y/our  
> own sense of self-esteem and ego fortitude.
>
> The same core strength we engage to ride our horses—that immovable  
> sense of center, that unshakeable sense of self—can be called upon  
> to withstand the buffeting of hurtful Internet barbs.
>
> Beverley

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