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judging others methods Re: [RC] parelli - Elizabeth ChaseI would ask of you the forbearance to refrain from judging the Parelli method based on so small a sampling. Parelli is not, I repeat NOT, about training horses. Parelli IS about understanding equine behaviour plus emotional and mental fitness... first in the human, who then is in a position to help the horse become more emotionally and mentally fit. It's about leadership. Here's the big rub: many of those poor humans never advance their mental or emotional fitness and it shows in their relationships with their horses and other humans in their lives. They are too scared to challenge their basic assumptions about life and coping. I'm sure the person you referred to is doing the best she knows how to do.... I think she needs to take some lessons from a PNH instructor in order to advance her skills, she seems very stuck in Level One. Maybe that's how the rest of her life is as well. Many PNH students also don't understand that it is possible to turn a 'no, don't do that', into a 'yes, do that'... it is possible to direct firmly without anger .... but it takes time and self-examination to get to that point, including challenging long and closely held opinions about how they think the world works. I can tell you I take my horses for long walks, like I would my dog. They love it.... exploring new places, seeing different creatures, making friends with mailboxes, helium balloons.....4-wheelers, combines, and all kinds of traffic.... without the burden of a predator on their backs. Then when I am on their backs, they trust me and know that I'm not going to put them in a situation we can't handle together. Sometimes we sit in the woods and watch the deer come closer, checking US out. We're enjoying our time together, and that doesn't have to include riding. My horses will invite me aboard with their body language. None of this dancing around stuff, avoiding the rider. So instead of judging another, perhaps watch and wonder if there is something you could learn about yourself. Liz MN PNH student almost into level 3 --- jeanmiller@xxxxxxxxxx wrote: I have a good friend who claims that all Parelli does is teach non horsey women how to love their horses! I also have a neighbor who has a huge dressage jumping horse. This horse is fine in the ring, but get him outside a ring and after working on trail (he crosses everything and will follow Maggie anywhere), he throws a hissy fit and usually ends up by dumping his rider. My friend who has been doing the parelli thing for over a year now, is still leading this horse for over a mile before she gets on his back to trail ride, she only walks on trail, and then she leads the horse over a mile home. She is afraid of this guy and to be honest with you, so would I be. In fact, if I were in her shoes with 3 young kids, I would get rid of this horse and get something that I could safely ride anywhere. I am guessing that a very experienced rider could get through to this horse but then he comes back to Jullie the same problem will exist. I did find a halflinger cross that she leased for the summer. This is the horse she rode on trail by herself, put her kids on, and in general had a blast. Toby is a good ol' boy. But when Jullie tried the parelli thing to get him in the trailer, guess who won? The owner got Toby in the trailer in minutes. I am sure that all methods of training have their place. But I always figured, one takes little of this, a little of that, and then uses what works best for you. At any rate, I was well entertained this summer. Jeanie
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