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RE: [RC] Horses and Husbands - Whiteaker, Steve

Tamara -

For the first 18 years of our marriage, I wanted nothing to do with horses.
In fact, I was very resentful of my wife's attempts to get me interested in
horses during our early years together. After about 5 years, she resigned
herself to the fact that I was never going to be involved in that part of
her life. 

Then 3 years ago, her mare foaled and I agreed to help her with imprint
training. Well, that hooked me and now I'm a bigger horse nut than she is!

You can't make your husband like horses. Maybe he'll come around and maybe
he won't. But I can almost guarantee that the harder you try to get him
involved the less interest he'll show.

Steve  


-----Original Message-----
From: Tamara Taylor [mailto:tam319@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] 
Sent: Friday, March 28, 2003 9:42 PM
To: Ridecamp

Hello list,

My husband and I were recently married (October) and we have been together
for 
4 years. Life is grand. He's my best friend in the world and we have a lot
of 
fun together. The only thing is that he is as non-horsey as they come! I
love 
riding and spending hours at the barn. My husband does not! There are
several 
other couples at the barn where I board and they both come out and spend
time 
at the barn together even if one of them is non-horsey and is just learning
to 
ride. I am looking forward to travelling to rides and shows this summer but
I 
don't think he will enjoy it much. I hate to drag him along if he's not
going 
to love it too.

He is supportive of my riding. He encourages me to go spend time with my
horses 
because he knows it makes me happy. He doesn't gripe about all the financial

costs. He even let my buy a new foal - my dream horse - last month despite
our 
very meager budget. The foal has arrived but he hasn't even been out to the 
barn to see it yet. We own several dogs as well (my babies) and live in the 
city. He knows that I don't like to leave them crated for long periods of
time 
so he works his schedule so that he can be home exercising the dogs while I 
ride. He is very accomodating.

Now I realize that it is important to have your separate things to do in a 
relationship. But horses are a huge part of my life and I would like him to
be 
a part of that aspect of my life. I will have a great ride and be beaming or

just enjoying the company of a warm muzzle but I still feel like something
is 
missing because I can't share it with him. If I ask he will come to the barn

with me but I can tell how much it bores him so I don't bother asking
anymore.

Do any of you ever feel this way? What do you do to deal with it?

Thanks,

Tam



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