RE: [RC] Refusing Entry - JUST FOR CLARIFICATION - Katrina Mosshammer
Not trying to get this whole thing stirred up again,
just wanted to give a little clarification. These riders have been "sat down and
talked to" by fellow riders. They pretend to listen and say they will act
better, but then turn right around and do the same thing the next time. Also,
one of these riders is not originally from central and it is my understanding
that she caused problems where she used to live. This is not a new development
for her. She has been doing this for years.
Katrina
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[mailto:ridecamp-owner@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Patty
P Sent: June 04, 2007 11:17 AM To: Alissa Norman;
ridecamp@xxxxxxxxxxxxx; Barbara McCrary Subject: Re: [RC] Refusing
Entry
If they are reading these messages, maybe
they are starting to get the idea. If not, then maybe their behavior
goes deeper ...you know abuse and what not. Not that I am condoning
it, but if peer pressure and these messages don't mean
anything to them it is probably a deeper issue that we don't understand.
Again, I am not condoning bad behavior,
but maybe they don't know how to communicate in any other way. Maybe we
can help them. This sport is full of good communicators. Maybe one of
them can find seek them out at each ride and have a chat about
handling problems. I am not a good enough communicator, although better
than I use to be...I still get far too upset at times. The last time I
yelled at my daughter I was really mad at myself for loosing my temper.
Yelling is NEVER the best way to handle things. Especially with our
kids, yet we have all done it.
Patty
I am sure this has already been
done... Has someone TOLD these two riders that they are being
obnoxious to the point that rider managers are threatening to
quit? Have the ride managers who HAVE quit contacted these two
riders and told them that they are part of the problem? Maybe
these two are just oblivious, and don't know that they are trouble
makers? Perhaps if someone who has been directly affected to the
point of not managing a ride tells them that, they might get their heads
out of the sand?
Or, perhaps, this course of action has already
been taken and they just don't care?
Wonder if some peer pressure
(all riders in camp actually letting them know when they are being
obnoxious and - especially important - when they are being nice)
might work? A sort of "endurance intervention."
