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I think the key is to marry someone with kids.  You bring baggage of horses.  They bring baggage of kids. 

 

This is a second marriage for both of us.  When it came to the horses and one comment that was made one time (and never again) about the horses, the time, the money, etc.  I told my him if he gets rid of his kids, I'll get rid of the horses!  That means EVERYTHING.  Well, he obviously isn't going to get rid of his children from his first marriage.  With money I spend on the horses, same thing...better not spend a penny on your kids then. 

 

Well, he's turned out to be the best!  He's outside with his Dad right now putting up pasture fence!  His picked stalls or the paddock when I'm out on a ride.  If I sleep in, he feeds the boys before I get up.  He doesn't ride and probably never will, but he loves those horses like they are his own.  As a matter of fact, one day I was so ticked off at one of the horses I said, "he's lucky I didn't have a gun!  Maybe I should just get rid of him."  He looked at me and said, "you can't get rid of the boys.  They have to stay with us until their time comes."  Who is this guy who doesn't ride horses?   My loving husband who puts up with my horse habits because I put up with his kids!  lol

 

Stacy

Mary Ann Spencer <maryann.spencer@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Very good points!!!  Unfortunately, nice guys of any kind are hard to find.  My ex got really nasty about my horse 'habit'.  Was not a pretty scene.................

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Sent: Monday, October 09, 2006 1:04 PM

Subject: [RC] relationships with non-horsey people

For the life of me I can't figure out why so many obsessive horse lovers
think they'd only match up with another obsessive horse lover. If you
marry someone with the same bad habit you've got it DOUBLES the cost of
every ride (believe me I know, I've got a junior)

I've been *very* happily married for 24 1/2 years now and would not trade
my non-horse loving husband for anything. What I recommend is you look
for a guy who enjoys maintaining property, keeping a vehicle serviced,
financially supporting his family, spending quality time with his kids,
camping, and watching his wife have a good time. :-)) Some of my favorite
people who are always at the rides never get on a horse and they seem to
enjoy the sport as much as any of us.