Re: RC: Re: CTR Support for spouse riding

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In a message dated 8/18/99 7:14:46 PM Pacific Daylight Time, 
rides2far@juno.com writes:

<< I've got a great "endurance husband".  His comment when he found out that
 *yet another* endurance riding friend was getting a divorce..partly
 because the guy resented the time she spent on her sport was this:  "When
 you get married your goal is to make your spouse happy....she made it
 easy for you dummy"
 
 My advice is this:  ALWAYS pretend that a really good all day training
 ride puts you in the mood to cook and have sex. >>

Angie, it sounds like you have both a good hubby and a good philosophy.  
Riding was also one of the few things that made my Dad really happy, and my 
Mom couldn't care less if she ever saw another horse.  But she wanted Dad to 
be happy, and trooped along with him to his endurance rides (I think she only 
missed one), and did the "people" part of the crewing--made him sandwiches or 
whatever, and looked after HIM.  We had a lady who boarded her horse with us 
who would ride with Dad--and my folks have been happily married since God was 
a child and are secure with each other so that Dad's riding with this lady 
didn't ruffle any feathers.  In fact, Mom was thrilled because it made Dad 
stick to a riding schedule and helped get him in shape.  We had a really nosy 
neighbor who used to "spy" on Dad, and one day she called my Mom up to break 
the "bad news" that my Dad was frequently seen hauling off to ride with "some 
woman."  Mom's retort was, "Oh, yes, isn't it WONDERFUL??"

Dad no longer rides (he is 80) but he and Mom celebrated their 58th 
anniversary this past April, and in all those years I've never known a time 
that they didn't hold hands...

Heidi 


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