Re: RC: Re: LONG!! What "Natural" Horsemanship is to me...

[Pam Johnson <pam-john@ma.ultranet.com>]

Hi Linda and Susan,

I've been reading with much interest what you both have said about NH and
am so encouraged. I just found a riding instructor who not only teaches me
how to ride, but how to better handle my horse by using NH techniques. This
Sat. I am taking an all day clinic to help with" attention and trust" and I
know my relationship with my horse will be improved. These techniques are
so common sense and therefore, work so well. I hope more and more folks are
listening and paying attention to what you've said and are able to benefit
from NH. Thanks for your wonderful explanations that said it so well!

Pam in MA



>Hi Sue,
>
><Heh!heh!heh!> You can quote me anytime.... and yes, these techniques
>work equally well for human interactions. I work as a project & program
>manager, and am very successful. I matrix manage, which means I have to
>get people who don't report to me, to work for me. These techniques work
>***extremely** well!
>
>The folks I worked with enjoy working with me because they know where I
>stand and what to expect out of me. I'm always coaching folks on
>techniques for interaction too, and they all know that I'm "colt
>breaking again". These are multi-cultural groups of s/w engineers,
>testers.
>
>Figure out what you want, and proceed to get it. Communicate,
>facilitate, follow through.
>
>> >... It has to be strong enough
>> >to demand respect, but has to accommodate the horses need to be accepted
>> >by a leader. .... it all amounts to respect and appreciation.
>
>If you don't demand respect, you get what you deserve, with horses and
>with people. I had a very unpleasant reminder of this recently, when I
>allowed myself to become oblivious to a close friends escalating abuse
>of my trust. "I cared", didn't take care of my own best interests, and
>it totally destroyed the relationship. I wish I never had to deal with
>this person again! I have to accept the blame, because I enabled it to
>happen.
>
>With young children and animals, we need to accept that it isn't
>personal when they are opportunistic. With adults in a work situation?
>I'm much the same way... it's my fault, I need to work proactively to
>manage outcomes.
>
>In personal relationships, when I'm pushed beyond what any fair person
>would push me? I hold a hell of a grudge - that person is accountable.
>Because I have that capacity, I'm careful to check my grudges at the
>door to the office or the barn!
>
>When we let people, dogs, horses and kids get away with B.S., they
>become obnoxious. And then, who wants to deal with them? Only the
>professionals and training hobbyists.
>
>> >... swift and stern discipline... if you are strong enough to
>> >lead justly, they're safe following you!
>....
>> >If you use the right timing and are
>> >consistent, forceful corrections seldom necessary.
>....
>> >Set the horse up for success, and give them freedom to make a the
>> >choice, because if you don't let them be wrong, you can't train them to
>> >make the right choices without constant guidance.
>
>Sue, I need to print some of this stuff out and post it on my own
>bathroom mirror! It's very easy to forget these interaction essentials.
>
>  -- Linda
>
>--
>
>
>  Linda Cowles
>  Lion Oaks Ranch
>  Gilroy CA
>
>
>
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