Ridecamp: [RC] [RC] Sharing expenses to rides

DeAnn,

Before I got my trailer, I hitched rides with 3 different people. One is my
overly generous cousin Mickie, the other is my barn owner, with whom I have
a friendship as well as a business relationship, and the other is my friend
Karen. 

When I trailered with Mickie, I drove my own truck separately, so we split
gas. One time I think I told her I'd pay double and I think we ended up
bartering some Equinyl and me dropping her Mom off somewhere. When I
trailered with my barn owner, she would never let me do more than split the
gas even though I tried to give her more money, maybe because I'm always
generous with my gear, food and e'lytes. She did charge me extra once for
loading and hauling my horse for me to a ride (I went down the day before to
help the RM) and I happily paid. When I went with Karen the first time, she
was picking me up so I could crew for someone else! I paid for a tank of gas
for her trouble, and of course, I helped crew for her too. The next time,
she picked up me and my horse and I tried to pay for every tank of gas after
she picked me up (can't remember if that happened or not -- I was sick on
the way home and simply handed her my card at every stop...).

Now that I have a truck and trailer, I'm trying to "pay it forward" and
picked up a new person to the sport and his horse on the way to Spook Run. I
think he paid me too much! A couple of tanks of gas plus some additional $$.
Control freak that he is, he also drove his share. Plus he was a great help
when I was at low ebb energy wise (and knee-pain wise).

When a person is hitching rides, they need to understand the inconvenience
to the "hitchee" and try to make up for it. Ya gotta give to get. When I'm a
begger, I try to give more than I get. And now I'm trying to pay it forward.

That's my 2 cents.

Deanna





This is endurance related, but not horse related.? I wonder how other
endurance riders handle sharing expenses to the rides.......The last ride
was Alpine and she actually brought home a second horse, (the raffle horse),
which I hauled in my trailer all the way back to Beavercreek.? My question
is, do most people that share rides share the gas as well and when hauling
an extra horse do they charge a hauling fee?? I didn't know this person that
well and to my surprise when I got home from the last ride she had charged
up over $25.00 in cell phone use on my phone (without asking).? I felt petty
asking to be reimbursed for the cell phone charges, but I did, in a nice
way.? To date she has not paid anything.? I'm also missing a nice HRM now
too, but that's my mistake for being too trusting. ?Is this typical when you
"share" a trip to a ride?? The only thing I have to compare it to is true
friends that I have hauled to rides.? Of course they always are extremely
gracious and appreciative to have someone do all the driving and to be able
to be in a nice warm camper.? All my other friends would always stay behind
when we got home and even clean up the camper with me.? This one would just
get her stuff and leave.? Maybe I'm being too picky, but I thought I'd just
ask fellow ride campers how they handle these type of people.? Of course she
will not be going with me anymore (I learned that lesson the hard way).?
?Thanks for your input.
DeAnn #12874
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