Because nice counts

["Terry Barrall and Felix Rodriguez" <losvagos@navicom.com>]

AGREED, Annie!

 

One can be critical of someone's opinion or actions and still remain at least civil and even polite or nice. Is that a tyranny? NO, it's not. The tyranny is when immature, dysfunctional persons (whether male or female) use pathetic niceness as a form of passive agressive control. I've studied some psychology too. The work is not an excuse for misbehavior, but a call for emotional integrity and congruity.

 

Terry B.

-----Original Message-----
From: Annie George <ageorge@vtc.net>
To: RideCamp <ridecamp@endurance.net>
Cc: lbm@ici.net <lbm@ici.net>
Date: Monday, July 02, 2001 2:05 PM
Subject: RC: Fw: Re: Because nice counts

Most of us do not think that being nice is ridiculous.

Anne George Saddlery  www.vtc.net/~ageorge

----- Original Message -----

From: guest@endurance.net

To: ridecamp@endurance.net

Sent: Monday, July 02, 2001 10:02 AM

Subject: RC: Re: Because nice counts

Linda B. Merims

Annie George <ageorge@vtc.net> said:

>I agree Linda, it seems some people are just trying to see how nasty they
can be.  I find that
>they usualy are quite meak in person.  I wonder about their emotional
stability, and self esteem
>issues.  Annie G.

For illumination on this ridiculous thread, I refer you to
Lyn Mikel Brown (Dept. of Education and Human
Development, Colby College) and Carol Gilligan's (Prof.
of Human Development and Psychology, Harvard University)
seminal work:

_Meeting at the Crossroads:  Women's Psychology and Girls'
Development_, Harvard University Press, 1992.  ISBN 0-674-546464-2.

In particular, read the chapter "Jessie:  The Tyranny of Nice and
Kind."

Linda B. Merims
lbm@ici.net
Massachusetts, USA


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